My Why

What a fantastic question! Thank you so much for asking. Well, not so long ago, I was a mom struggling. And I mean STRUGGLING. I became a mom at 23 (who allowed that??) with my husband of 5 months, whom I started dating at 16 (I know, we're crazy). I was so physically sick and in the depths of perinatal depression that I dropped out of grad school, which I worked so hard to get into. Even as a first-year grad student to become a psychotherapist, I had no idea perinatal depression was a thing. I thought the depression only came AFTER the baby! Well, I was very wrong and struggled with perinatal depression followed by postpartum depression, anxiety, and OCD. The trifecta of new mom misery, I like to say. 

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After three long years and a second baby, I couldn't function anymore. I was yelling at my 2-year-old like he was a reckless driver who just hit and ran my car, my newborn, who wouldn't take a bottle, and left me a human cow 24-7 for fifteen months (hello, overstimulation), and my marriage? Well, let's just say I begged my husband to come home early every day to help, then yelled at him for doing everything "wrong."

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After a year of therapy, I finally got back into grad school to begin my journey to become a therapist. I was out of the postpartum phase (minus a miscarriage I had at 10 weeks) and was on a journey to create the life I had always dreamed for myself. I was still miserable. I still felt burnt out, overstimulated, and unhappy at home. It wasn't until my husband and I did couples therapy (alongside our own indivudal therapy) that I felt a weight be lifted off of my shoulders. All of the "you need to take care of yourself" and "you need some alone time" advice fell flat when the relationship that steered our household was fractured. The truth of the matter is, we are the first generation to truly desire to do this parent thing as a TEAM. We have very few examples to look to on how to navigate working and staying home parents who are also both fairly (not equally) involved in the mental and domestic load. Throw in a few perinatal mental disorders that neither one of you has ever experienced alongside a newborn? It makes total sense that your life feels out of control and miserable. 

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So yes, I love and regularly work with moms individually. I also love working with the couple to get an idea of how we can take some of the load and pressure off each other. To work through this new life and relationship, we now have a new baby has entered the relationship. Life is going to feel different; it is different! Let me help you make it feel like home.